Hello! My name is Deja Nicole and I used to bog at Yahoo 360. Sadly, it was just a beta site and now it is falling apart as Yahoo no longer supports it. I have to find a new blog venue so Blogger is one that I will try out. If Blogger is folding please let me know.
So, my initial blog will be about dating and gender preference. Last Saturday while I was getting zapped my Electrologist and I were chatting about dating and one of the questions that I brought up struck her as different. My question was "Who do you like, men or women?" I posed this question rhetorically to everyone, especially those in the Transworld. In the Transworld you may have liked one gender before but since you transitioned you may now like the other gender. Or you may keep liking the same gender after your transition. It's really kind of amazing when your preference shifts.
My friend, G, says she used to be a lipstick Lesbian when she was married to a woman but since she transitioned she is interested only in males. I kind of follow her like patterns going from Lez to "Straight" but I still can enjoy the female gender. I guess I am now Bi with an edge to liking men.
I recently met my niece and her husband and the "Who do you prefer?" question came up. Before I answered the question I shot it right back to them. We had some thought provoking statements but the best one was from my niece's hubby who said that he knew a woman who is keeping both genders in view while looking for a partner. Even though she went from Straight to Lez she does not want to rule out one gender. She used to exclude women and she was thinking of now excluding men but she wants to keep both options available. I agree with her thoughts.
It's kind of funny that I can now admit I like men. It was such a no-no before when I was firmly entrenched in the Straight world. After all, no "real man "would want to be with another man. But then again, I never was a "real man". Now I can freely choose who I want and it's ok.
But even though I like men I'm not so sure that I can deal with them. Again, it's funny. I used to be a man and one would think that I would know what it's like to be a man but I really don't. My Electro told me that a lot of MTF Trans make that same mistake. They think they know how men think but they don't really know for sure. I had to agree with her on that one. But, as one of my straight friends said "Yeah, but you have a pretty good idea." I have to agree with him too. I have male bonded with men and I have heard/seen their thoughts, emotions and troubles with women. And now I can see/hear the reverse, women and their thoughts, emotions and troubles with men. It almost seems like men and women should not be together sometimes. Maybe Gay is the way to go. At least you are kind of on the same page. I remember my boss one day hopelessly exclaim "Men and women have completely different agendas!" Again, I have to agree with that statement too.
But sexual attraction is the mystery here. What turns one on? What scents drive one crazy with lust? Those pheromones do motivate and bring us into relationships that we might not be ready for. How many times have you heard "I love him/her but he/she drives me insane!!!" Ya can't live with them and ya can't live without them!!!
So those are my thoughts for my first official Blogger blog. So far it seems ok and maybe I'll stay here for a while!
So, my initial blog will be about dating and gender preference. Last Saturday while I was getting zapped my Electrologist and I were chatting about dating and one of the questions that I brought up struck her as different. My question was "Who do you like, men or women?" I posed this question rhetorically to everyone, especially those in the Transworld. In the Transworld you may have liked one gender before but since you transitioned you may now like the other gender. Or you may keep liking the same gender after your transition. It's really kind of amazing when your preference shifts.
My friend, G, says she used to be a lipstick Lesbian when she was married to a woman but since she transitioned she is interested only in males. I kind of follow her like patterns going from Lez to "Straight" but I still can enjoy the female gender. I guess I am now Bi with an edge to liking men.
I recently met my niece and her husband and the "Who do you prefer?" question came up. Before I answered the question I shot it right back to them. We had some thought provoking statements but the best one was from my niece's hubby who said that he knew a woman who is keeping both genders in view while looking for a partner. Even though she went from Straight to Lez she does not want to rule out one gender. She used to exclude women and she was thinking of now excluding men but she wants to keep both options available. I agree with her thoughts.
It's kind of funny that I can now admit I like men. It was such a no-no before when I was firmly entrenched in the Straight world. After all, no "real man "would want to be with another man. But then again, I never was a "real man". Now I can freely choose who I want and it's ok.
But even though I like men I'm not so sure that I can deal with them. Again, it's funny. I used to be a man and one would think that I would know what it's like to be a man but I really don't. My Electro told me that a lot of MTF Trans make that same mistake. They think they know how men think but they don't really know for sure. I had to agree with her on that one. But, as one of my straight friends said "Yeah, but you have a pretty good idea." I have to agree with him too. I have male bonded with men and I have heard/seen their thoughts, emotions and troubles with women. And now I can see/hear the reverse, women and their thoughts, emotions and troubles with men. It almost seems like men and women should not be together sometimes. Maybe Gay is the way to go. At least you are kind of on the same page. I remember my boss one day hopelessly exclaim "Men and women have completely different agendas!" Again, I have to agree with that statement too.
But sexual attraction is the mystery here. What turns one on? What scents drive one crazy with lust? Those pheromones do motivate and bring us into relationships that we might not be ready for. How many times have you heard "I love him/her but he/she drives me insane!!!" Ya can't live with them and ya can't live without them!!!
So those are my thoughts for my first official Blogger blog. So far it seems ok and maybe I'll stay here for a while!
